Wellness Program

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The Friends Select Wellness Program, now in its fourth year, engages the school’s community and the general public about mental health and other wellness issues. It is spearheaded by Molly Patterson, Ed.D., the middle and upper school learning specialist, Natan Gottesman, Ph.D., the school psychologist, Gabrielle Witkin, M.S.Ed., M.Phil.Ed., the middle school/ upper school counselor, and Chris Singler, upper school director. The program provides information, strategies, support, and resources to students, faculty, and families in the Friends Select community and beyond. Through speaking events, presentations, and participatory activities, the program increases awareness of issues that can affect student learning and well-being. Potential issues that impact students may include mental health challenges, learning styles, peer relationships, social media and internet use, academic pressures, and the college application process.

2019-20 Wellness Program Events

The Well-Balanced Student: An Evening with Denise Pope

UPDATE: This event is being postponed until the 2020-21 school year.

We all want our children and students to do well in school and to master critical academic skills and concepts. However, the fast pace and high pressure of our culture works against much of what we know about healthy child development and effective education. There is a tendency to overly focus on academic achievement, resulting in a lack of attention to other elements of a successful life, such as being independent, adaptable, ethical, and engaged thinkers. Under the leadership of Denise Pope, the Challenge Success program works with schools, families, and communities to embrace a broad definition of success that promotes student well-being and engagement with learning. It helps foster learners who are healthy, motivated, and prepared for the wide variety of tasks they will face as adults. The Friends Select Wellness Program is proud to present Denise Pope speaking about the well-balanced student.

About the Speaker

Denise Pope, Ph.D., is a Senior Lecturer at the Stanford University Graduate School of Education, where she specializes in student engagement, curriculum studies, qualitative research methods, and service learning. Challenge Success is an expanded version of the SOS: Stressed-Out Students project that Dr. Pope founded and directed from 2003-2008. She is the author of “Doing School”: How We Are Creating a Generation of Stressed Out, Materialistic, and Miseducated Students, which was awarded Notable Book in Education by the American School Board Journal, 2001, and co-author of Overloaded and Underprepared: Strategies for Stronger Schools and Healthy, Successful Kids.

Dr. Pope lectures nationally on parenting techniques and pedagogical strategies to increase student health, engagement with learning, and integrity. She is a 3-time recipient of the Stanford University School of Education Outstanding Teacher and Mentor Award and was honored with the 2012 Education Professor of the Year “Educators’ Voice Award” from the Academy of Education Arts and Sciences.

Prior to teaching at Stanford, Dr. Pope taught high school English in Fremont, CA, and college composition and rhetoric courses at Santa Clara University. She lives in Los Altos, CA, with her husband and three children.


Wellness Lunches

As an ongoing foundational aspect of the program since its inception, Natan and Molly meet with small groups of upper school students throughout the school year for “Wellness Lunches.” At these lunches, issues such as mental health, academic successes and struggles, stress and stress management, navigation of upper school expectations, and time management are discussed.


The Wellness Program is made possible by support from Jeff Abrams and Margaret Barry, parents of Friends Select alumni.

Past Wellness Program Events

In the 2017-2018 school year, the program brought Kenneth Ginsburg to speak about his book, Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love with Expectations and Protection with Trust. This year, the program continues to expand, with events intended to increase conversation about the connections between stress, overall mental health and well-being, and academic engagement.

Last year, the Wellness Program hosted a screening and panel discussion for Angst: Raising Awareness Around Anxiety, an IndieFlix documentary that explores the multilayered effects of anxiety on our society. This film was screened for parents and the wider community, as well as for faculty and students in the upper and middle school. In addition, speakers were brought in from the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), who presented information about mental illness to upper school students, with one speaker candidly sharing her own personal experiences with mental illness, treatment, and recovery.

This year, the Wellness Program presented adolescent mental health expert Anthony Rostain and family therapist B. Janet Hibbs, authors of The Stressed Years of Their Lives: Helping Your Kid Survive and Thrive During Their College Years. They discussed their recently published book, which is intended to help students and parents cope with the stress and anxiety associated with college.